Sympathy Card Messages: What to Write in a Sympathy Card


© Scott Griessel |
Hand-writing your own sympathy card messages makes your condolence more personal and thoughtful.

Instead of buying a sympathy card with a generic message, you can add a personal touch with these sample words of sympathy.

Sometimes there is not really anything you can say or you may feel that everything you start to write is too cliché. Here are some more original ideas.
You can use:

There should be some hand-written words on there. Sympathy cards are not like birthday card; it’s not okay to just sign your name on a generic card. Well, I guess that is better than not sending a card at all.

However, it can be extremely easy to get a heartfelt comforting card in the mail today, with a little help!

Using a Poem as a Sympathy Card Message

Sympathy poems are profound and can be more expressive than the average message found in a store-bought card.
Your message should be brief. If you will use a poem, it needs to be short (not more than 5 or 6 lines).

Hand-write the poem into a blank sympathy card with blue or black ink. You could also print it out onto nice card stock or decorative paper and then add a personal message.
Remember, there should be some hand-written words on there.

Using Quotes and Verse as a Sympathy Card Message

For shorter sympathy card messages, use a sympathy verse or quote. This can be a bible verse, famous quote, saying or even a song lyric. You’ll know when you find just the right sympathy saying.
It can help if you know if the recipient has a favorite author, actor or historical figure. Once you know a name, it’s pretty easy to search for inspiring quotes from that individual.

Sympathy Card Quotes

A few of my favorite sympathy quotes to use when I’m making sympathy cards are:

“What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose;
All that we love deeply, becomes a part of us.”

-Helen Keller

“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.”

-Robert Louis Stevenson

“Mourning can go on for years and years.
It doesn’t end after a year, that’s a false fantasy.
It usually ends when people realize that they can live again,
that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole,
and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.”

-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Sympathy Bible Verses

There are several scriptures that Christians might find comforting.  In general, it’s best to not use religious sympathy card messages unless you know they will be well received.

Here are just a couple favorites:

“God is our refuge and strength…”
-Psalms 46:1

“I will not leave you comfortless:
I will come to you.” 

-John 14:18

I have a page where you can find more Sympathy Bible Verses.

I hope that gives you an idea of just a few types of messages you can write in a sympathy card.  Even a simple card that is blank inside because of a thoughtful expression of sympathy with a nice hand-written message inside.